The Joy and Wonder of Parenting after Pregnancy Loss

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I’m over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today asking the question, How did we get here? 

“It’s a simple question that’s loaded with emotion. There have been several moments like this over the past three years. Some big, and some fleeting. Most are messy and others Rockwell-esque. But each one has been impactful.”

You can check out the post here.

The Emotions of the Positive Pregnancy Test After Loss: Pregnancy After Loss Support

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(Rest assured, I’m not pregnant.) We’re over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today, talking the lingering emotions attached to pregnancy tests.

Those two lines represent such an evolution of myself, and of Aaron and I as a couple. It’s a reminder of where we’ve been, and where we are. And of the struggles and triumphs along the way.”

You can check out the post here.

Finding Perspective: The Adoption Home Study (Pregnancy After Loss Support)

DifficultRoadsWe’re over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today, talking about the unforeseen benefits and advantages of completing an adoption home study.

Anyone can have a baby, and we have to fill out fire escape forms.”

You can check out the post here.

Dads Matter: Pregnancy After Loss Support

DadsMatterWe’re over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today, shining some much needed light on, and support for, Dads.

“Of course you want to take that pain and sadness away from her. And now that she’s pregnant again, you have to be the strong one. You have to remain guarded this pregnancy to protect her, right? Not so fast.”

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A Mother is a Mother Any Day

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Mother’s Day was eight days after C was born. “Happy 1st Mother’s Day!” family and friends gushed. “Thank you,” I said. “But it’s not my first Mother’s Day. It’s the first Mother’s Day that I have something to be happy about, too.”

Now, it’s a bittersweet day that I celebrate with my boys, and ache for my children who aren’t here. Today more than others, as it is the anniversary of my first miscarriage eight years ago.

Mother’s Day, and the time leading up to it, is a difficult day for many, including us loss Moms. While everyday is a reminder of what we lost, Mother’s Day puts it front and center. And it’s further complicated when there are additional children, whether born prior, or after our losses. To many in the the outside world, these children replace those we lost, or take away the pain we’ve gone through. To many, because we never parented the children we lost, we don’t “count” as Mothers.

We are all Mothers, regardless of whether we got to parent our children. We love. We dream. We grieve. To all of the loss Moms out there, we stand with you, and we honor you, today and everyday. Be extra gentle with yourselves today, and do what you need to help you through the day.

And to all of those of you who have a family member or friend who lost their child(ren), please recognize them today as the loving, caring and grieving Mothers they are.

Don’t Wish Your Pregnancy Away: Pregnancy After Loss Support

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I’m over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today taking a look back at my last pregnancy, and all the things I wished I had been able to enjoy more.

“I actually miss being pregnant, and I’m pretty sure it was because I missed being pregnant while I was pregnant.”

You can check out the full post here.