The Chosen Ones: Getting The Call (Pregnancy After Loss Support)

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We’re over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today talking about the day we got the call that C’s birthparents had chosen us:

“We were deeply invested in the situation, and at the same time, completely separated. We didn’t have doctor appointments to go to. We didn’t get to see ultrasound scans and pictures. I didn’t get to feel the baby moving. We relied on conversations and hope.”

You can check out the full post here.

What Makes a Family? Pregnancy After Loss Support

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I’m over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today talking about the notion of families.

“Do they really think that we, as parents, make a distinction like this with our children? There are plenty of things that differentiate my boys, but who is more part of our family isn’t one of them.”

You can check out the full post here.

Finding Perspective: The Adoption Home Study (Pregnancy After Loss Support)

DifficultRoadsWe’re over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today, talking about the unforeseen benefits and advantages of completing an adoption home study.

Anyone can have a baby, and we have to fill out fire escape forms.”

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Discovering New Traditions: Pregnancy After Loss Support

menorahI’m over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today talking about the mixed emotions that come with holidays when you’re parenting after loss. Here’s a snippet:

“Often times PAL feels like it needs to be an either/or endeavor where either you feel sadness, or if you do feel joy, there’s a side of guilt that comes along with it. But the truth of the matter is that these emotions can, and do, exist alongside one another. ”

You can check out the full post here. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Stories We Tell. 7 Came Before You: Pregnancy After Loss Support

heartsun_Mayur-Gala_croppedI’m over at Pregnancy After Loss Support today talking about the challenges of telling Baby Boy and Little Guy the story of their siblings who came before them. Here’s a snippet:

“Keeping these stories secret wouldn’t be fair to them, or their siblings. Part of it is simply the notion of talking about death to kids. But deeper than that, how do you talk about death, when you can’t share about their life?”

You can check out the full post here. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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